May’s Show & Tell is focused on toys and tools that do not measure up. Every toy purchase or acquisition always has some hopes attached- but let’s be real- sometimes… they do not live up to their expectations. Maybe it never really fit right, or it was a step towards something else and you didn’t look back. Maybe it stopped holding a charge, or got a crack, or started to smell weird or was never really your thing in the first place and your ex didn’t take it in the split. There’s a lot to learn from mistakes, and this show and tell is for that side of the learning and discernment process. Come join us to show us what lives at the back of your toy box, we will discuss all the things that can lead to that, and maybe…. one queer’s trash is anothers treasure. We will discuss the ins and outs of end-of-life care for intimate objects, recycling, regifting, refitting and what to do when it seems there is nothing left but to bin them.
The Show & Tell is a chance for pleasure seekers, sex educators, and toy designers + sellers to come together- and share what we are coming for/with. Kori has been hosting these events monthly since fall 2021; each month exploring different types of toys and tools.
The event is hosted in Topia, which is a social engagement platform where attendees can see and hear each other over video chat, but also have the opportunity to “move throughout the space”, allowing a more organic flow between conversations. It requires a browser (chrome preferably, but firefox beta is now in use), headphones and a webcam. Test running topia before the event is recommended to make sure your technology is compatible. Some folks have noted that this platform can be very demanding and it is recommended to close all other apps, tabs and windows before booting it up as well as ensuring that your computer is in good working order.
This space offers an opportunity to come and learn from others about toys & tools you may be curious about, and bring your own favourites to show + tell about. Vendors are welcome to share product and make connections with potential future clients, but this is not a sales expo, it is primarily for educational and community building purposes. This is a space to bring your questions, and crowd source information and experience from a community of sex – positive individuals. (what is sex – positive? I see it as a way of understanding sex and sexuality as morally neutral, innate and divinely mysterious aspects of human life, that are laced up in cultural and personal complexity and trauma. Being sex positive doesn’t mean you are down for any or all sex, it is possible to be asexual, not personally drawn to sex, and be sex positive. The brand of sex positivity we practice in this space is also hinged on personal agency and consent, recognizing each individual as the best boss of their own self)
In May, we will be focusing on the Toys and Tools that live in the back of the drawer or toy box. Join us to talk about when toys don’t deliver the pleasure we had hoped for and what we can do with them when their time has come.