This week is marked as Trans Awareness Week, and I have been unsure how exactly to observe. I am sharing an IG Live with fellow gender autonomy parent, Dr Kyl Myers on Tuesday evening, and I wanted to gather my thoughts a bit in preparation of that. She invited me to share her audience and…
This was originally written as a comment on the posting of an article on the facebook wall of my dear friend and collaborator barbara findlay. Being a generation or 2 older than me, and with a long history of involvement in legal activism on behalf of LGBTQ+ communities and individuals, her network includes individuals with…
I’ve grown these flowers, these vegetables, and this child, from tiny little seeds. While the seams of society are ripping open, and the horrors of systemic racism, police violence, predatory tendencies of capitalism all are cast into the bright summer solstice sun, we have spiritual and political garden work to tend to. We need to…
Open Letter to Speaker Anthony Rota and Deputy Speaker Carol Hughes When I heard the news this week that Jagmeet Singh had been ejected from the House of Commons, I was not shocked but I was dismayed at the blatant and violent double standards exercised by you in your roles as Deputy Speaker and Speaker…
An open letter to parents (especially cis{not trans} gendered and/or straight parents) considering bringing your children to pride, Pride is a cultural festival. It is a festival that comes from a culture of struggle, of resistance. Our culture, queer and trans culture, pride culture, is a beautiful and exciting rainbow sparkle fest, but also has…
I’ve been relatively silent in this stream for a number of months now. Huge changes unfolded over those months, including important perspective shifts and closing of chapters that had served their time. There has been grief, transition, experimentation, re-starting and stripping down to the basics. I spent a period of time putting a degree…
Check out an article I interviewed for here: https://modernfertility.com/blog/transgender-fertility/ Thanks to English Taylor for a very supportive interview process and taking interest in the fertility of trans folks.
I have just returned home to the homostead from a trip that had rubber ends, originally planned as a jet set 2 day turnaround to see Janelle Monae perform in Vancouver. I did go to the show, and it was amazing. But way more amazing than my current state could handle. I sat down mid…
One of my goals for this year is to get on better terms with structures and tools like schedules, recipes and budgets, in efforts to run an over all tighter ship. I am tired of being caught off guard by bills that shouldn’t have been unexpected, double bookings and staring into the abyss of the…
I haven’t written much about Searyl’s allergies, but yesterday we had a day out that reminded me that it was something I had been meaning to do. They are almost 11 months old now, and as kids are apt to do, they have been challenging me in some of the ways I perhaps most needed…
I have been puzzling over how to write more about my experiences and insights of pregnancy. Obviously I have stories to tell, but I was unsure how to approach it- and then I got a message from my cousin. There it was, the frame. This is the first of a series of letters to her…
People have been asking me, pretty much every time I go out in public, “So how’s the pregnancy going?”. I’ve discussed this with other parents before about how once we venture into this whole process, the ways that we are vessels trump everything else about who we may have been. Good friends have shared with…
Working in harm reduction I have heard people describe certain substances in a way that they “turn up the experience.” Some drugs will synergistically turn up the effects of others, while other substances have the ability to turn up the experience of the music, the lights, the emotions. Sometimes this amplification is a desired and…
A few months ago andi and I were having acid church in my bus house and started chatting about the topic of breeding. I had, since my miscarriage a couple of years ago mostly backed away from the plans and connections that I had had with that whole realm. I had at one time had a…
To those who identify as “Pre-everything”, I see this a lot, especially on trans groups and on tumblr. People who have not engaged in any medical interventions that they may be hoping to someday pursue. The implication is that they are in a stage where everything that will make them who they are is yet…
Learning to love living in this body I live in has been somewhat of an epic and ongoing quest. In the lead up to this weeks’ focus in Resilience Building for Trans Folks and Our Allies; “BODIES”, I wanted to tell a bit of the story of how I learned to live in, tend to…
